Protecting and Preparing Children for Sex in Marriage (Part 3)
PART 3: CULTIVATING A GIRL’S TRUE BEAUTY
While fathers must raise their sons with strength and clarity, mothers are called to shape daughters with beauty, boldness, and grace. The world is not passive toward your daughter—it is predatory. And it preaches lies with evangelical fervor: that her body is for display, her emotions are absolute truth, and her value is defined by how much attention she can attract.
But a godly mother stands in the gap. Not merely to correct her daughter’s behavior, but to disciple her identity.
“Do not forsake the teaching of your mother… to keep you from the evil woman.”
— Proverbs 6:20b, 24
Solomon understood what many have forgotten: a mother’s teaching is not sentimental fluff. It is covenantal defense. It is spiritual formation. And it is essential.
Here are ten lessons every godly mother must disciple into the soul of her daughter:
1. HER BODY IS A TEMPLE, NOT A TOOL
Teach her that her body is sacred, not sexualized. It is not a marketing prop or attention grabber—it is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19). Help her see her worth not in gazes received but in her Creator’s design.
2. MODESTY IS MAJESTY, NOT MISERY
Modesty is not about shame—it’s about strength. It is royal, dignified, and liberating. She is not hiding her body in guilt; she is clothing herself in dignity (Prov. 31:25).
3. DISCIPLE HER EMOTIONS BEFORE THE WORLD DOES
Our culture idolizes emotional chaos. Teach her self-governance. Help her learn when to speak, when to wait, how to pray through the Psalms, and how not to weaponize her feelings.
4. BE BOLD ABOUT SEX, VIRGINITY, AND DESIRE
Do not outsource this conversation. Be the first voice she hears about sex—not her friends or her phone. Teach her that desire is good when it is guarded by covenant and directed by God.
5. EXPOSE THE LIES BEFORE THEY SEDUCE HER
From Instagram influencers to TikTok therapists to classroom ideologues, the world catechizes daily. It teaches that empowerment means rebellion, that modesty is oppression, that femininity is fragility, and that submission is abuse. It shames motherhood, mocks marriage, and preaches that liberation is found in lust. But a godly mother unmasks these lies. She teaches her daughter to spot counterfeits, to cherish God’s design, and to delight in the fierce beauty of Ruth, the humility of Mary, and the royal strength of the Proverbs 31 woman.
6. LET HER SEE SUBMISSION & STRENGTH IN YOU
You are her model. She will absorb what you display. Honor your husband. Speak with grace. Carry yourself with quiet strength. Repent when you fall short. Show her joy in biblical submission.
7. INVITE HER INTO THE SACRED WORK OF THE HOME
The home is not a prison. It is a dominion. Train her in hospitality, stewardship, and nurture. Let her see that homemaking is not drudgery—it is glory.
8. TEACH HER TO VALUE A GODLY MAN
Don’t just warn about wrong boys—paint a picture of the right kind of man. Teach her to love strength under control, convictional leadership, and Christlike humility. If she doesn’t know what to look for, she will settle for whoever looks at her.
9. PRAY WITH HER AND OVER HER, OUT LOUD
She needs to hear your desperation before God. Intercede for her future, her purity, her husband, and her holiness. Let prayer be the rhythm of your relationship.
10. SHARE YOUR STORY—SCARS, GRACE, AND ALL
She doesn’t need a perfect model—she needs a real one. Be honest about your victories and your failures. Teach her that repentance is beautiful, purity is possible, and that grace can redeem any past.
FINAL CHARGE TO MOTHERS
No daughter drifts into holiness. She is trained into it.
And the greatest tool in that training is you—your teaching, your example, and your relentless love.
If your daughter sees a woman who fears the Lord, she will learn to laugh at the days to come. If she hears from you the truth about her body, her soul, and her Savior, she will not fall for the whispers of the evil woman.
You are God’s chosen means of making her strong.
So teach her.
Model for her.
Disciple her.
And raise her to be holy.
COMING NEXT:
Part 4: The Gospel for the Impure – Healing the Wounded to Raise the Whole releases tomorrow.
Don’t miss it.
