Protecting and Preparing Children for Sex in Marriage (Part 4)
PART 4: THE GOSPEL FOR THE IMPURE
We have spoken to fathers and to mothers. We have lifted high the vision of sexual purity, not as a burdensome duty, but as a beautiful calling. We have charted a course for raising sons and daughters who fear the Lord, who treasure His design, and who know how to stand when the world bows. But now we must turn inward—because beneath the charge to train our children lies a harder truth: many of us were never trained ourselves. We are not instructing from the mountaintop, but from the ruins. We are parents with scars, trying to build what was never built for us.
This final section is not just for the young. It is for the fathers who fell. For the mothers who wept. For the sons who gave away what they now wish they had kept. For the daughters who still carry regret like a hidden garment under their Sunday best. This is not a message for the righteous; it is for the limping. For the guilty. For the impure. And that makes it a message for all of us. Because no one stands before God unstained—unless they have been washed by blood.
“Such were some of you, but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).
YOU WERE NOT GUARDED, BUT YOU CAN BE GIVEN GRACE
Maybe your father never taught you how to war against lust. Maybe your mother never sat you down with the truths of covenantal purity. Maybe your first encounter with sexuality came through the glowing static of cable TV or the shadows of private curiosity. Perhaps shame greeted you before the Gospel ever did. Perhaps no one noticed. Perhaps no one helped you back up. And now, as you parent your children, you wonder if your past failures disqualify you from their future victories.
But here is the towering truth: the Gospel of Jesus Christ does not begin with clean yourself up—it begins with come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. You are not defined by your failure, but by your faith. You are not what happened to you, and you are not what you did. You are what Christ has declared over you—washed, sanctified, justified. This gospel is not for the self-sufficient, but for the self-condemned. It is not for the qualified, but for the called.
Jesus Christ did not come for the perfect. He came for the perverse. He did not come to applaud the strong, but to carry the shattered. He was tempted in every way—without sin—so that He could redeem those who have sinned in every way. He was pierced for the impure. He was shamed so the guilty could be clean. He was forsaken so that the exiled could be welcomed home. He does not rub your face in the mud—He kneels and washes your feet with His own blood. He is not disgusted by your weakness—He is glorified in redeeming it.
“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).
YOU CAN RAISE WHAT YOU WERE NEVER RAISED IN
You may not have been taught the truth. But now you can teach it. You may not have been protected, but now you can become a protector. You may not have received a godly legacy, but now you can begin one. Grace does not delete your past like a clean slate—it redeems it like a mosaic. Your scars are not liabilities; they are evidence of healing. They are testimonies in the war. And God loves raising up warriors from the wounded.
You are not too late. You are not too far gone. You are not disqualified from this fight. In fact, your very failure may be the soil where fierce conviction is born. The Lord restores your soul, not just so you can walk with Him—but so you can guide others in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake (Psalm 23:3). God uses broken men to raise whole sons. He uses weeping mothers to raise rejoicing daughters. The line of sin can end with you. The generational rot can stop at your door. In Christ, you are not a continuation of the curse—you are the branch where new fruit begins to grow.
You can raise boys who treasure wisdom instead of women’s bodies. You can raise girls who find their worth in Christ instead of Instagram. You can lead a home where the language is grace, the culture is holiness, and the air is thick with truth. And when your children ask why you guard them so carefully, why you discipline so diligently, why you train them with such fire in your eyes—you can tell them, “Because I know what happens when no one fights. And by God’s grace, I will fight for you.”
THE GOSPEL DOES NOT SHAME—IT SENDS
This series has never been about rule-keeping. It is not a parade of moralism dressed in religious vocabulary. It is about the miracle of regeneration. The triumph of grace. The power of Christ to turn wreckage into redemption. Jesus heals the impure. He restores what the locusts have eaten. He rebuilds what pornography tried to destroy. He renews what the devil tried to deform. And He does not just forgive you and leave you—He sends you back into your family not to hide in shame, but to lead in strength.
He sends you back as a warrior—not with guilt in your eyes, but Gospel on your tongue. You are a new creation. You are His. And He has not only healed you—He has handed you a sword.
So rise up. Not as a man defined by defeat, but as a father prepared to fight. Rise up. Not as a woman bound by regret, but as a mother called to build. Raise your children in the joy of holiness. Fill your home with the songs of the redeemed. And may the banner that waves over your household be this: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15).
SERIES FINALE
If this four-part series has blessed you, strengthened you, or given you a vision for your family, consider sharing it with parents, pastors, and churches who need courage. This is not just content—it is a call to arms. A call to reclaim what the enemy has stolen. A call to fight not just for innocence, but for the kind of legacy that glorifies Christ for generations.
We are not raising survivors.
We are raising saints.
And by the power of the Gospel, we will not flinch.
We will not compromise.
We will not lose our children to the darkness.
They were made for sanctity.
And so were we.
